Should I Consider a Divorce or Marriage Counseling?

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You find someone you are interested in and you date for a while. Things seem great, so you get married. And then things change almost as fast as playing the scary maze game. You are not alone. Many people find that marriage changes over time.

There are many ways that people get to this point. Lack of communication tops the list. Without communicating clearly to each other about feelings and concerns, a marriage can become mechanical.

Talking about the things that are going on, such as financial concerns, expectations, having children, how the children will be raised, and a host of other topics will keep you and your partner connected. You start to think of what’s happening to this relationship. Will it be divorce or marriage counseling?

You will feel like you are working toward the same goal. The paths you take to get there can be different, but reaching the goal together is what is important.

Trust is also a factor to consider when marriage changes. Honesty is perhaps the most important aspect in a relationship. When the initial spark turns routine, when looks have faded, trust and compatibility are all that remains.

Lying to your spouse or not being forthcoming about factors in your life can destroy trust, changing the relationship over time. To be able to trust in one’s partner completely is the most freeing experience humans can know. Jeopardizing that can ruin a relationship faster than any other factor.

Some marital problems are not as dynamic as money or trust issues. Some marriages just fizzle. Boredom can lead to finding stimulation elsewhere. That could entail having most of your social life occur outside of the house with other people, in effect, living separate lives, or it could open the door for infidelity.

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Men and women see things differently. This is fact. If you are considering marriage counseling or even divorce, you have undoubtedly discovered that. The point of views taken by men and women during arguments, the way they communicate, body language, the notion of consequences – all of it is viewed differently. Learning each other’s language is an important step in bridging the gap.

Have you noticed the pattern of issues and how they intertwine? Without communication there can be no trust. Without trust neither person is able to express themselves freely.

If you and your spouse are considering divorce for whatever reason (boredom, just plain getting on each other’s nerves, issues are at a stalemate, you feel more like roommates than a married couple, money concerns, infidelity) perhaps marriage counseling can help. Therapy provides a forum where a neutral party (let’s face it, mom is always going to be on your side!) listens to both sides of the story and provides strategies to get through not only the current issue, but also future issues of the same sort. They mediate, allowing both parties the ability to speak without being interrupted and giving both the time to say what they need to say. They also provide coping mechanisms to help you communicate better as a couple. The therapist is a sounding board, there to catch the raw emotion and help you channel it into something helpful in your situation. Couple work allows for both perspectives to be brought to light in a safe environment.

The tools you get from marriage counseling should help you handle issues that come up outside of therapy. But remember, it is a process. One session will not cure all that ails the marriage. It probably won’t even stop you from thinking about separating. But within the confines of therapy, you will be able to investigate your options and weigh them in an informed manner, rather than making decisions in anger. The process will be uncomfortable, but frankly, if you have been thinking about divorce, you have already been uncomfortable for quite some time. If you remember that you are in therapy to understand the problems and make a healthy next step, which may or may not include saving the relationship, you will benefit from the experience.

If you are having concerns in your marriage and are interested in talking with someone, be sure to find someone that suits both of you. This is very important. Both of you must feel comfortable speaking freely in your sessions or else the exercise is pointless. Speak to the counselor candidates you find. Get a feel for their personalities and methods. Confirm their credentials (social worker, counselor, Licensed Professional Counselor, psychologist, psychiatrist) and remember to check your insurance to determine what is covered. Once you’ve gathered all of this information, weigh the pros and cons of each.

Whether or not to separate isn’t something to upon decide lightly. If you are ready to take the next step in working through your issues, counseling can help you make the next step in your relationship.

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26 comments on “Should I Consider a Divorce or Marriage Counseling?
  1. Danagetty says:

    Do people really get divorced because their toothpaste is in the wrong spot? Don’t get me wrong, I know that many people divorce for reasons that could be easily be hashed out, especially if a third party is mediating, but I’m not sure I would appreciate being married to someone who would divorce me for something so minor as to where I’ve placed the toothpaste.

    That being said, I do believe that people don’t take marriage, and in fact any committed relationship in general, as seriously as they might have in past generations. It’s unfortunate because I don’t think that people realize that the dynamics of any serious committed relationship changes over time. The idea is that two people will grow with each other as opposed to grow apart.

    I think that if people invested the time in nurturing and uplifting each other, that many relationships could be salvaged. Either by listening to each other, trying to have compassion or empathy for each other, or seeking the advice of a licensed professional, many marriages could be saved with some investment in the relationship.

  2. mary says:

    Marriage counselling should always come before divorce unless it has got to the point were the marriage really has hit rock bottom. For some reason when things are bad the woman and the man seem to both think that they are right and when you have that situation things might not work out. I know couples that have tried marriage counselling and they still ended up going to the divorce court so it really all depends on how each one feels.

  3. Julian says:

    Some things just can’t be fixed. But how do you know unless you try? I think it is a pity these days that people are far to ready to throw in the towel and call it a day. Why not take on the help of an expert who may, as an outsider, be able to shed some light on the issues you are having.

    I have known a few couples who have gone through a divorce only then to get married again a year or so later to the same person.. would the divorce have happened in the first place had they taken advice? maybe… maybe not.

  4. Personally if I had to chose, I would definitely say that before you even go for marriage counseling, you should actually sit down and try talk things out. If that doesn’t work, you can call in two of your most trusted friends and try to talk further about your issues. Every one has issues in their relationships so there is nothing to be ashamed of. If all fails, then you can try marriage counseling, but before you even get to that, if you are religious, you can try prayers, then marriage counseling. I am sure if the both of you really want to save your marriage, then there is nothing that can get in the way.

  5. marijke says:

    I believe a major key to any relationship is respect, not only for the self and for the other, but also for the relationship itself. If both partners are not willing to work on making their relationship the best it can be, then that is a major issue which may not be able to be resolved through marriage counseling. Both need to want to work with a marriage counselor, just like both partners need to want to repair a broken marriage. It takes two actively involved individuals, caring, loving, supporting, giving, nurturing, allowing the other to be the best they can be, to make a marriage work for both partners.

  6. ShyBear says:

    Marriage counsler or divorce? I feel like it really depends on the couple and their situations.

    If the couple has never done therapy, they should most definitly give it a try. Talking to family or friends is going to confuse things even more. The problem is that the couple will assume the family will know the problems. Or the couple will not discuss all the problems. There for speaking with someone who knows nothing about the marriage, both partners will have to voice their side. Resulting in the first step of healing a broken marriage.

    Now on the other hand if you have already tried therapy or both parties is not willing to participate one hundred percent, then maybe counseling is not for you.

    In order for success in a marriage is communication. So if you have problems talk them out. Rather thats alone or in counseling thats on you. Just look at it like this, you loved eachother enough to tie the knot. Why not find just enough love to try that one last time. So that way you know, you never just gave up.

  7. Marcus says:

    I believe divorce is too big a step to consider immediately when dealing with marital strain. Counseling is a very effective way to sort things out and I believe it should always be the first option. If counseling proves ineffective, then perhaps divorce can now be on the table. Just remember to think of all the scenarios that might happen when pursuing this path. Divorce is painful, personally and financially and it doesn’t hurt to think deeply about your situation.

  8. kinshuk awasthi says:

    A very good and engaging post indeed! But a definitive answer in terms of Yes or No wouldn’t do justice to this rather intriguing question. Marriage is definitely the second most beautiful thing in the world, after ‘LOVE’. So if the most beautiful thing fizzles out of our lives, marriage is bound to feel the tremors. But yes, thinking about divorce is not the best way to find a solution. As afterall no one marries with an objective to get divorced. So every possible attempt should be made to save one’s marriage and Counselling happens to be one of the strongest and most effective medium to do so.

    Although some relationships go past the repairing mode but giving up without trying honestly to save this beautiful relationship is sheer injustice to the very essence of Marriage!

  9. Josie says:

    My deal breakers are cheating and abuse. Anything else deserves the effort to fix. If boredom is the issue, both people are to blame. If you’re bored and seek excitement outside of your marriage (sex or not) then blame falls on you. You are just as capable of putting the spark back in the marriage as your spouse and leaving your happiness up to other people is just lazy. If you can’t bring yourself to start the ball rolling, getting counselling is a great start. Especially if the two aren’t getting along or avoid taking any responsibility in things going downhill. I hope my husband and I never get to that point, but as you said, communication is a necessity and I married someone I can talk to about absolutely anything.. if I ever have issue with the marriage, I know we’ll get through it.

    • Danagetty says:

      Josie, these are actually deal breakers for me as well. I think that pretty much everything can be worked on, but when you lay your hands on someone, all bets are off. As for cheating, it’s such a disrespect that I don’t know if I could get over it.

      I’ve actually been in relationships where I’ve forgiven cheating and they just did it again. It was even more of a slap in the face after being magnanimous enough to forgive it. I don’t know if I could do that again because of my past.

  10. Josie says:

    My deal breakers are cheating and abuse. Anything else deserves the effort to fix. If boredom is the issue, both people are to blame. If you’re bored and seek excitement outside of your marriage (sex or not) then blame falls on you. You are just as capable of putting the spark back in the marriage as your spouse and leaving your happiness up to other people is just lazy. If you can’t bring yourself to start the ball rolling, getting counselling is a great start. Especially if the two aren’t getting along or avoid taking any responsibility in things going downhill. I hope my husband and I never get to that point, but as you said, communication is a necessity and I married someone I can talk to about absolutely anything.. if I ever have issue with the marriage, I know we’ll get through it.

  11. darelle4 says:

    Divorce is a serious thing and should not even be a step to take. Every marriage has their issues but it is a growing process which the couples has not accept and decide to be selfless and make things right. Marriage counseling is the best resort but when you have been to marriage counseling and there are no changes then it means that there is a serious problem somewhere. Prayer should be considered as the main thing or else things will get worst.

  12. DonnaIreilly says:

    Yes, I think if people are having problems with their marriage then getting professional help to get to the bottom of their issues is a great idea. Talking things over is a brilliant way to get to the route of your problems. I find Marriage counseling to be a great thing. If your relationship isn’t meant to be then you will know.

  13. DonnaIreilly says:

    Marriage counseling should always come before divorce. I think too many couples don’t talk about their feelings and end up getting divorced when they could of sorted out their problems. Divorce should be the last resort, if you really no longer love each other and your problems are just to difficult to sort out.

  14. Jolene Leslie says:

    I have been in great bondage for almost 2 years suffering in the hands of a cheating husband,we were happy and leaving well until he meant his old time time girl friend and he started dating her outside our marriage before you knew it he stopped caring and taking care of his own family it was to the extent that now he was planning to get married to her and divorce his own wife, i have cried and reported him to his family but he never listened to any one but to cut my story short i came in search for a real spell caster who could destroy their relationship and make him come back to his wife and 2 kids on my search i saw people making testimony on how their marriage where restored by Priest Ajigar i pick his email and i narrated my story to him and he agreed to help me and after performing a spell on the third day they both had a quarrel and he beat his girlfriend up and he came home begging for i and my little kids to forgive him that his eyes are clear now that he will never do any thing that will hurt his family again and promise to be a caring father and never cheat again.I am so so happy that i did not loose him to the girl all appreciation goes to Priest Ajigar for you are a Great spell caster and to whom this may concern if you have a cheating husband or wife yo can find his email by typing Priest Ajigar on

    Jolene Leslie from from USA

  15. gracious martins says:

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  16. Tanya Lawson says:

    I live in USA where Divorce case seems to be the order of the day,i was married to my husband Lawson for 18 years and we were living happily together with our 3 kids and all of a sudden their came this sad moment for the first time in my life i curt my husband having an affair with a lady outside our marriage before this time i have already started noticing strange behavior like he used to spend some time with us, comes home early after work but since he started having an affair with this lady all his love for his wife gone and he now treats me badly and will not always make me happy.I had to keep on moving with my life never knowing that our marriage was now leading to divorce which i can not take because i love Lawson my husband so much and i can’t afford to loose him to this strange Lady,i had to seek a friends advice on how i could resolve my marriage problem and make the divorce case not to take place and my husband live this Lady and come back to me again having heard my story my friend decided to help me at all cost she then referred me to A spell caster named Priest Ajigar, my friend also told me that Priest Ajigar have helped so many people that were going through divorce, and also finding possible ways to amend their broken relationship. To cut my story short i contacted Priest Ajigar and in just four days after the spell was done my husband left the other lady and withdrew the divorce case all till now my husband is with me and he now treats me well and we are living happily together again all appreciation goes to Priest Ajigar i never could have done this my self, so to whom it may concern if you are finding difficulty in your relationship or having problems in your marriage just contact Priest Ajigar he is Powerful and his spell works perfectly,i am somebody who never believed or heard about spell but i gave it a try with Priest Ajigar and today every thing is working well for me and if you need his help his email is (

  17. Adam Cohen1 says:

    You know that feeling you get like blood rushing up to your head when you see or read something you feel its too not real to believe like get out of here that not real!!! yeah that was just how i use to fill each i bumped in one or two article about spell casting online like that not so happening. Yet it was that same spell casting got me to live happily with the love of my life. Just thought you should know, Metodo Acamu was the spell caster behind the spell that brought me eternal happiness. Am gay and a school teacher from Belgium and my finance so happened to be a teacher also but we did work at the same school. We got engagement like 8 months before he started teach in a particular high school i can’t disclose. I know eight months is a long time to be engagement but we planned our wedding to happen in the united state of America so we were preparing for the big day. Any way not every parent would like for there children to be educated about same sex as a matter of fact we teacher are not allowed to talk about our sexual orientation at school to the kids we teach. Its not even right to talk about any type personal stuff with kids at school but our case was different we were getting married and it was kind of the most talked about wedding of the year not like it was like that of Kim and Mr west but co teachers were talking some how it fell into the months of the kids at school that was went the problem came. Parent started talking saying how can the school let this happen they don’t want their child hearing thing like this and start talking about it at home. Where we stay, there aren’t a lot gay people. You can only find one out of ten persons that are gay so it was hard on us. There was pressure form the school to either call off the wedding or force quite our jobs. I was ready to leave everything just to be with my love but he was too scared. He didn’t want to loss his job cos it took a while to find something that he loved doing. I knew he loved so much {and he still does} but he was scared of his future i tried everything ti make him see we can be together an find a way to deal with the school stuff but he still broke off our engagement and called off the wedding and stopped contacting almost like he doesn’t love me any more. At a time i thought we were done until we resumed contacting each other in secret like we were doing anything wrong. It was so frustrating for me i was not free to love who i wanted in public cos he loved his job as a teacher so much anytime i bring up us to come out together in public he got angry. Our relationship got unhealthy for us both it was failing and i did want us to end like that i guess that how you feel when really in love with some. I was exhaust didn’t want he wanted but i knew he loved me so much. So after literally trying everything to get us together as we were before we broke our engagement i thought i should give spell casting a try and really it worked. When i explained to Metod Acamu how i have tried all means but failed to make my fiancé become my fiancé again and get married, he said all i need was to use a spell to make him feel that love he felt before that made him put a ring it. He asked for some materials to use to get the spell casted he said i could bring it over to his fortress or send it over or send down the expenses to him to get them if i can find them to buy. It took some day to complete the spell and just after the spell was completed and made effective my heart desire was fulfilled we did not have to live Belgium any more we got married here their month but honeymooned in USA. If you don think it was the spell that made this happen then i don’t know how then to explain the fact that he quite his teaching job he loved with his life cos everybody who knew him knew how he loved his job too much to quite for anything or anyone. And i would advice asked Metodo to get the materials for the spell for you its way less costly. TO contact him use this { metodoacamufortressx{at}yahoo. com } where {at} is @ and note don’t leave a space btw . and come when mailing him

  18. Baldwin Willard1 says:

    From my observation i noticed most people think spell casting is all and only Spam. Yes you can say that almost everything on the Internet is more or less Spam this days. I could have with no two thought said just that last year but Metodo Acamu a spell caster made me see there are still few good spell caster out there. Before now, i wasn’t a good father or a husband. I almost lost everything i had. As a matter of fact i lost everything i had. I lost my two kids and my wife and my job because i am an alcoholic. I was mostly always drunk throughout the entire day i pushed everybody away that really wanted to help me my wife my friends my mom i was just all about the alcohol. For two years i lived just being a drunk who had no one and who had nothing to live for, i was totally useless.When i realized myself it was rather to later even after i became sober and started fixing my life. She was remarried and living happily and wanted nothing to do with me. I wanted my wife back and wanted to be a part of my children life. Me wanting back my family was not only a step to get my life back together it was also a step to prove to my wife though i am an alcoholic, i can stay sober and be responsible for her and my children. Heaven knows i tried all i can to prove to her that i have changed and i am ready to love her with my life just like how it was before i ruined it. I got her back even with the help of Metodo Aamu a spell caster i was referred to on the Internet. Whatever he did for me made my wife and my kids come back to me. All that was required from me were materials needed for the spell casting. I wish i can write in detail about how all this happened to make those who need help believe that spell casting can yield good result but it really about the heart if you think Metodo Acamu can help you with your problem contact him here metodoacamufortressx[AT]yahoo{DOT}com note:use this email the way you use yours in the stand email format and i promise you, he can take all your troubles away, As his spell casting is harmless and don’t have any effect in ones life.

  19. mrs rita moris says:

    my name is mrs rita moris :I want to share my story and testimony on how god use a pastor to restored back my marriage I got married at the age of 27years I was living happily with my family and my husband love me very much then four years after my marriage I was unable to give birth to children;then my husband love me so much that he was bordered about that but my mother was the only problem she keep on disturbing me and pesting me I was so warried then two years latter I was stil barren my husband became warried two my mother in law poison my husband mind against me unknowingly that my husband was having an affair with another lady,but not until one day that I came back from work to see my loving and caring husband with another woman in my matrimonial bed room when I tried to raised my voiced he ask me to park my things and live his house which I did with heavy tears on my year later I was invited to a church program which I attended when the progrme I went to see the powerfull man of god then I explain evry thing to him then he ask me if I the belived that god can restor marriage I said yes.he ask me to go into seven days fating and prayer and he also gave me an anointing oil which I used in bathing and creaming my body two months after my husband who don’t want to see my face started caling and askin me to come bank home as I am talkin to you know I am living happily with three children THAT IS WHY THEY SAY WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE IF YOU ARE HAVING ANY DIFFICUITY IN ANY ASPECT OF LIFE THE GOD THAT DO IT FOR ME CAN ALSO DO IT

  20. Luaren Fisher1 says:

    There is a lot i have to say but i really don’t know were to start from. I guess i will have to build my story, that is life story form the begin but will try has much to make it short. I fell in love with my boyfriend Daxson about three years ago and since then we have being living together. We are not married or engaged because like he said he wanted to finish his med school and all that. I was not even bothered because we were in love and as long as there is love who really need marriage and somehow even with all the stress he was going through, he finds the time to make me feel loved always. He is literally the definition caring. But here is the twister i never knew or rather he never told me he was scared for being a father at least we never talk about it because it never crossed our mind and we always i mean always played it safe. I was on my pills and he always used protection. Like they say, i guess when its time its time like, i got pregnant. Looking at it then i will say, that was my greatest mistake in life only now i see a baby is really a blessing. Ok let me go back on track. When i told him about it, i couldn’t say he was happy or sad but he had an expression on his face like “de f*** i ve got med school and now this ?” but he assured me, it was fine and he was happy and we are going to do it together as a family and i wished all that where true. On my third trimester, he said to my face he was not ready to be a father and was not going to do it with me anymore and that he doesn’t think he is gonna be a good father. We all know its hard to believe soon we all gonna be parents but for real, it comes when we are not even prepared for it and all we can do then is accept it as it comes. I tried to make him see what he was doing to me and his baby i mean i loved him so much and i was the happiest woman alive to be carrying his child i just wished he was too. He was not even there to see his girl when she was born he just left me and our baby. I could not understand why i was just too heart broken knowing that he has been the only one in my life for three years and now he just left me with some silly excuse i could not understand. I literally became a single mom for four months before Metodo Acamu a witch doctor helped me get back the man i love. Its not like i couldn’t do it all alone i mean take care of my baby girl its just that i loved him so much that i could not leave without him and all i could think of was him. Even with all that happened i could not bring myself to hate him i was only heart broken and wished i could get him back. When i contact Motodo Acamu ,he asked me to get some materials of which he was going to use to prepare a spell that was coming to reunite me, Daxson and April my baby girl. I sent him the money for the materials because it was less stressful and he made me see he was an honest and truthful witch doctor. He helped me a lot, he sent a package to me which i paid for . He told me to burning the content of package with the incense he sent along with the content of the package and in seven days Daxson will be my one and only again. Just as Metodo Acamu said it happened. I can say i was surprise because i have never done this kind of thing before and i was not so sure how it will play out. Though i made Daxson beg, i had to let him into my life and that of April again because that was all i ever wanted. And the spell is totally safe like Metodo Acamu told me and the love is real because the spell only made him see how much i mean to him and how much his life revolves around April and i . Everyone has his or her own opinion about the witch doctor Metodo Acamu but for me he is the reason my family is complete and happy if you want to Contact him use this email
    metodoacamufortressx@ yah oo. com note please use the normal email format where all words and character are joined together

  21. bayer says:

    American is changing for the best i can say this because the gay community just literally got liberated i mean we can officially get married and be part of the the American society. When i heard the news i was filled with joy i mean me and my fiance the man i have always can finally own our marriage certificate in Georgia.It was not always right for us if you know what i mean. Before we got married in California ,he was not in love with me or i would say he was in love with me and lost for another guy and it was frustrating.We were off and on and mostly times our break up was always bad it always ends with huge fight. I loved him and wanted to be all his for the rest of my life but he did not see that he wanted to have me to himself and still see other guy i mean who does that? He was the queen of heart breaker and also was perfect when he wants to mend the heart. This was why i also went back to him no matter what always led to our ugly break up. But this madness just kept going on over and over with us and like i said i was sick of it. You can’t hurt me over and over again and still come back to me i mean i am not a play thing you use and drop when you tired. Judge me if you will it not like i care because all my life people have always said trash about me but if i had paid their attentions i would not have been this happy. After searching for means to make him commit to me even taking him with me to couple counseling i decide i contact a spell caster called Obudun Magonata it was just an arbitrary choice i mean, i told myself if he can’t help me i will move on with my life maybe the one i clam to be the love of my life was not the one after all. Obudun Magonata is an angel sent from a place i don’t know. He save me and made me he happiest man on earth or more preferable the happiest gay man on earth . I don’t know how he did it just after he help me cast a love spell, every pain that i was going through was lifted of my shoulder like magic my lover became the queen of hearts i would say he became mine and loved me like his life depended on it. When i first contacted Obudun Magonata, he told me to come down to his temple so i may witness the greatness of his work we got the materials we used for the spell together and just after four day i say the greatness of his power. But i spent a lot Because i had to travel all the way to Africa. It will be cheaper for me to have had him get the materials form me but i was foolish. But its amazing i still got my heart desire. He also told me that the gay community will soon be free and in just two months his prophecy has come to pass. Who wants to tell me he is not great contact i you will here you will not regret your decision use thus address spiritsofobudunmagonata@(yahoo). com rewrite to a normal email format

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  23. Rosla Loveu says:

    If you have been reading comment online about this spell caster Akpe Osilama it will be easy for me to tell you this that he couldn’t get any more really that he is already. I have come to a conclusion that the gift he possess and his good heart are the strongest most powerful thing i have ever known. He is the most straight forward person and most understanding anyone can ever meet. He did not even ask for my money he just asked me to get materials that will be needed for the spell and that was it. To start, i am an alcoholic and also have a strong addiction for gambling. I lost almost a 100 grand on internet gambling and still did not stop at the same time i was drinking heavily i got suspended form work for a duration of four years because of my drinking problem & my home, i destroyed it with by myself. I was unfaithful to my wife several times and she knew what was happening, i kept yelling over nothing on my girls. My addiction to gambling and drinking was complimentary i was losing a lot of money and still playing and was drinking a lot to calm my nerves. The addiction made me numb my feelings was gone. My wife , my girls saw me as a monster. I remember this day, my wife told me it as my second girl’s birthday the other week and my responds was “grown *** girls don’t celebrate their birthday and if she wanted to she can as well go get a job so she can use want she earn to celebrate every day of her life”. I still can’t believe i said that to my wife and on top of that her sister was right there. My wife was hurt it was written all over her face her face and she told me ” I don’t even know who you are any more where is the man that use to be the human shield of this family ? that man would never had said anything to hurt me or his kids you don’t even care that you are scaring h*** out of this girls? one more of this and i am out” there i told her i don’t need them they were weighing me down that there were burden on me. Those words still hunts me till this day i can believe i really said all those words. My wife left me and off course with the kids and foolish drunk me happily signed the divorce papers. Honestly i don’t know maybe it because i was drunk most of the the day, i felt go i get gambling and kept drinking losing big and winning little waking up with different ladies on my bed every morning. I was like this for two years, and i felt i was on top of the world but my friend made me see i had nothing anymore his wife won’t let him talk to me or hang out with me i gradually felt empty. At a point i saw i needed to get clean and actually committed to my self to AA off course it was hard to admit but with my friends help i got committed. I was six months clean from alcohol and gambling when i discovered my wife was see another man and they were going to get married. I was still in love with her. She was mad when she saw me, she wanted nothing to do with me, my girls hated me because of me they could not even look at me. I tried to get close and got a restraining order. I needed to be my family again i know i ruined it by myself i just wanted to make it up to them i failed then and i wanted to redeem myself to show them the man that use to be the human shield of his family is back i found him again. Akpe Osilama was the man that help me made it happen. It was the course of find a away to reach my wife i found this great spell caster. I did not have the privilege of meeting but like he told other he had helped, some of them met him in real time. He told me after the spell casting my wife , my child will love me like we never fell apart they would know i messed up but they will not care about it any more. I got the materials that was required of me by i got i mean i asked him to help me sending over to him the total cost because most of the materials where only found in the heart of Libya. Just after the spell process was concluded a package was sent to me i can’t disclose its content but it rest easy it could not even harm a fly. He told me what to do with it and all he said will happen happened. I had my family back my wife , my child and i are once again that happy family i lost. I was still on suspension he told he i will get a call to come back to work and i did just after all he did for me. This spell caster he has something that saves lives. Am glad i met him all he promised me he did i wish i could me more grateful. I will leave his email contact like those other person that did in there comment or article which ever this is chiefpriestakpeosilamaspellcast ‘ at ‘ ‘ yahoo ‘ ‘ dot ‘ ‘ com ~~~

  24. Louise Damen says:

    How to restore a failing relationship Unlike the movies we see, every relationship will not always been happy forever. Something or factors are always there to drop the relationship you have given all. It may be due to dishonesty, failing to funding, lack of understanding, the requirement of unemployment and so on. It will take more than a lot to save a relationship failing to take i’ve been there. Now I know some ways that can help restore a failing relationship that will work, it forms the background to the latest high ultimate way I know. Understanding: Understanding is a way to restore a default relationship.But as easy as it sounds, it is the most difficult task accomplish.Why is it? let see. In a relationship is like to be that person who has never heard as he or she does not exist. Men feel like everything he says or does is just because they are men and they think they need to be still in charge because men are heard and women feel like they have need to be heard and their opinion counts a lot. If the two can not balance this, I see no hope for this relationship because after so many struggles resulting from misunderstandings they call the end. Stable finances: This is especially for men. It is important to have a stable finance, because a lot of bad things can happen due to financial difficulties. Even if your spouse choose to stay with you through troubled times, you can see that the default and before you know little things and talk about money leads to fight and as you know the relationship falls. But stable finances can restore a failing relationship in a measure before some other factors plans. Couple Counseling: This for a very long time is the last point of almost all couples before the final relationship fall.Here terminal are either restored or destroyed.Couple Council recorded a large amount of success over the years, but does not guarantee that the relationship will remain strong for long time.Studies show that most relationships recorded by the board experienced a positive change for up to 3-5 years before failing again and some even comes experienced no change. I’m not saying couples therapy does not work I simply say, it does not really guarantee a lasting relationship. D’Amour spell: For me, this is the only way that you and someone you love will always be, as they have promised you. My marriage had its largest penalty the board, understanding and all the things I wrote above, and the only thing that worked for me was the Ajayi Ololo fate did for me. It was the only help I seeked that actually worked for me which is why I say is the Ultimate.My friend who advised me to contact a spell caster remained married to her husband for ten years and some months now because of love Ajayi Ololo fate of her.I can not speak of my own because its just been two months .I you want to save your relationship Contact your roulette with this email ajayiololo @ (yahoo). com. Warning: use this email in the regular mail format

  25. PAVLA DASKALOV says:

    I am just another person that as i would say, the ‘ GREAT SPELL CASTER OBUDUN MANGONATA ‘ has helped word can not describe all he did for me i would rather you all that would read this were all in my life when all what he did for me materialized because only then will you really believe what i am talking about. I was not born with a royal blood and i do not even come from a decent family by decent i mean a family with wealth and all that and it was more than normal that my relationship with a royal blood will cause a lot of feud in both my home and that of my fiance. Yes he from a royal family but i will not mentions anything else in other to avoid scandal. We meant on a faithful Sunday in church and just like that he swept me off my feet i knew he was the prince but that was not while i fell for him it was more like i fell for him because he seem calm and always at else with everything it was like he did not even see himself as a prince. May be you may think its because it was not next in line but when i got to really know him, i saw that he was just an unembellished person that wanted to live his life in peace. It all start with us being friend and then on every night of Christmas 2004 that he spent at my house he kissed me and believe me in my mind i was Cinderella. It was like my heart was going to burst in flame i never knew i had all those feelings locked away in my heart but he broke the chain that was holding it back with just one kiss. Even when he wanted to be with me he family was again it and it was always like i was the root of what ever problem he was going through with his family. I thought to myself, i can not be the one to take the peace he had i felt he was better and at else without me. We where always of and on and all the while he waited for me with the biggest of hope that i will come back. I knew he was madly in love with me as i was in love with him but being with him was a problem as much as not being with him. His family won’t let him be with with me. They opposed our relationship for nine years we where in love but unhappy our relationship was going no where with all the feud. I could no longer be the one an entire family hate and the same time be in love with a guy that his family did not want me. I some how some way got to know about OBUDUN MANGONATA a spell cast a great one at that. All i want was to be with my now fiance forever and to be loved and cared for by his family just as it suppose to be. I asked him to help me make my heart desires materialize because i saw a lot of testimonies on the internet about him and the number of people he helped everybody and every blog and forum had his name and his work. I needed to be one of the people he helped. After a lot of conversation he agreed to help me and asked that i get some materials he listed for me. I could get them but i would have made too many people ask question and it needed to be done in a very low profile so i wired the total cost to him so that he can get the materials i needed for the spell and there by avoid exposing myself over what should have be done in secret until the spell process was completed. Yes OBUDUN MANGONATA helped me with he spell and he send me a package containing what i can not disclose all i can say is that it was the result of the spell he helped me cast and he gave instruction on how i would use it to make the spell effective. I did all he asked of me and just like he promise me at the beginning, the spell made my fiance entire family love respect and treat me like their own child honestly they made my fiance propose to me it was confusing for him but i made him understand that finally we can be together just as we also wanted without anyone trying to tear us apart. To me i would say that OBUDUN MANGONATA was my fairy godmother because maybe right now my life would have be miserable basically because i would have had to let go of the love of my life because no one or more like his family would not approve our union.No one really cares if you contact OBUDUN MANGONATA or not but if you are in real problem and nothing seems to be working out for you please contact OBUDUN MANGONATA because you will only be helping yourself and yourself only use this email as contact { spirits of obudun magonata @ yahoo . com } combine word name character together to form his email ./

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